cosby

When I was little, I was in my room crying after one of the two times my mom seriously beat my ass. My mom was in another room talking with my aunt about why she was upset and why she had whooped my ass, giving “her” side of the story. So I yelled out, “YOU WOULDNT SEE THAT ON THE COSBY SHOW!” To which my forever awesome mom immediately screamed back, “BUT YOU WOULD ON ROSEANNE!” and slammed the door to the room her and my aunt were in.

The Cosby show WAS the standard for how life should be. So, in 2005 when I read about the allegations and the lawsuit, because I care about justice for victims of sexual assault and Cosby, I investigated it and read extensively what I could find. What I found lead me to believe there wasn’t much to it and it had been settled out of court. Actually what I decided upon was the woman wasn’t credible. At this point in time I have no idea why I came to that conclusion, but that’s what I thought and moved on. So this current outrage really upsets me, WHERE WERE YOU IN 2005? If this is such an issue of importance? NOTHING has changed since 2005, no new charges, no new evidence, no new convictions, just a comedian who made a joke and the rage machine of the internet in full effect. Maybe I have lost my mind, but even in the midst of the current court statements, my understanding is Cosby said he got drugs for women he wanted to have sex with. The one woman he said he gave the drugs to testified in court that she voluntarily took the drugs from Cosby. This information has now morphed into “COSBY ADMITS TO RAPE” in articles I see my friends posting, so maybe I have lost my mind, I believe women, I believe them until I am given cause to think otherwise and then I don’t know, this isn’t saying Cosby didn’t do it, it seems VERY likely, but I don’t definitely know. Maybe I watched too much Law & Order, but people being taken down in the court of public opinion is not my preferred measure of justice.

OMG, cultural appropriation

I was spending(wasting) my time reading angry people on the internet, who are upset about some thin, white girl fashion blogger wearing a Bindi and a Neon colored Indian Headdress…. I manage my time spectacularly.

It made me think about what cultural appropriation or “authenticity” even means anymore, in the age of the internet. An age filled with black teenagers obsessed with dressing and talking like anime characters, Filipino’s being consistent players in the element of DJing, Todos Somos Morrissey, Akon speaking Hindi in one of this songs, Big Boi stating Kate Bush is the person he would most like to work with, Lupe Fiasco sampling Modest Mouse, every MC on my twitter feed being in love with Larry David, Tyler the creator sporting a nazi symbol(ala Poly Styrene), the Farsi speaking dude in “Kennedy” Fried Chicken telling me to “Have a Goodnight Mami,” and the last episode of 60 minutes including a montage of the hosts edited with Eminem’s “My Name Is” under it(dude, those dudes are OLD!). I mean really, aren’t white kids “acting black” at this point just “acting white” or at least Filipino? or Ed Bradley?

The problem is not the symbols or the ornaments, or the images, these are subjective, dependent on time and place, anyone can wear anything, anyone can profit off or copyright any image. The nuts and bolts of who is profiting and why, is the real issue. You may be an uncreative dickhead for wearing a neon Indian Headdress, but you aren’t racist. I’m not saying these images aren’t powerful, they are, that’s why we care so much, but you cannot intellectually argue people out of how they want to express themselves, you cannot intellectually argue people out of what they respond to, of what makes them happy or angry.

instagram makes me hate women aka i should post more hot photos of myself online

I have a fancy phone for two reasons: GPS and Instagram. GPS, because honestly without it, I will die lost in the woods, cold and alone. Even though when I was younger I traversed most of the 50 states and a couple foreign lands without it, I have become completely dependent on my phone telling me where to go in a period of less than 2 years.
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my comeuppance

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The neighborhood I grew up in has changed a great deal, just over the last ten years. It’s gone through a common cycle found in cities, European immigrants, primarily Eastern European, followed by people of color, white flight and new immigrants from India and Asia, followed by younger “upwardly” mobile “students.” My family is part of the group that didn’t quite achieve white flight. My neighborhood is not really gentrifying as much as functioning as campus housing to the over five colleges in the area. After spending my time actively being the first wave of Gentrification in neighborhoods across the country, I guess this is my payback.
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kathleen hanna, riot grrl, and p*****cal c******ness

In the new issue of BUST, there is an interview with Kathleen Hanna by Kim Gordon. Being the die-hard Riot Grrrl I will always be, I immediately read it when it arrived at my home. Hanna really has the amazing ability to always address whatever the underlying pivotal issues of the time are. There are a few things she said that I feel have been sorely missing from the discussion in some Feminist camps. Quotes that really “spoke to me” are:
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single-handedly destroying the myth that white women are easier to deal with

So there is this idea you may have encountered, about white women being less abrasive, less demanding, easier to deal with, and/or generally more pleasant than black women, which floats around American culture. I remember the first time I encountered this idea, years ago through a Richard Pryor routine. At the time, I remember thinking, “That doesn’t make sense, …Oh that must have been a long time ago, before all the shrill, demanding, Femi-Nazis really established themselves.” In the world I live in white women are not easier, white women at not easy. In my little bubble of a world white women care about, get upset about, cry about things of no consequence. They are overly emotional and overly picky. My white lady world is the world of Julianne Moore’s character in the movie Safe by Todd Haynes. In which a woman becomes so paranoid and obsessed about pollutants in her environment she must leave her family and live alone in a germ free, sterile environment. One that only certain people can afford to inhabit.
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